Have you ever thought, wow – that mom is #goals. She’s got it all together. She looks cool, calm and dare we say … collected. Goals carry a little more weight when you’re a parent. Instead of making them just for ourselves, moms often make promises of parental betterment. But, when we don’t follow through on them, it stings doubly. Because #momguilt.
If you’re striving to add a little more tranquility into your daily routine, be sure those goals are realistic. We teamed up with Christy Carlson Romano, an undeniably busy mom with her 2nd baby on the way, to give you five ways moms can get that zen glow with ease in 2019.
Create a Sanctuary
Find a place in or around your home that makes you feel calm. It could be a spare room, the home office, a spot in the backyard or even your car. Keep it stocked with your personal essentials – snacks you love, a few great books, a cozy throw, your favorite scented candle – whatever makes you feel at ease. Now, the next time you do manage to get a few minutes to yourself, your peaceful place is just waiting for you to enter.
Find Your Tribe
Finding someone you can rely on and trust with your baby is a must. Find a couple of those people and you’re even better positioned to add more zen. This could be your mom, your best friend, an in-law, another parent from your neighborhood – someone you can call when you’re really needing a few hours to reconnect with yourself. If it’s another parent, set up a weekly play-date and switch off every week so you both get some time for yourselves. For you, it provides a much needed respite, and for baby, it’s helpful to socialize with other children their age for more balance.
We’ve all been there. You’ve got 99 more things left on the ole to-do list that you were hoping to get done that day. But since that’s not going to happen anyway, blow it off and do something you actually enjoy instead. If exercise is your thing, go to the gym or take a yoga class. If you’ve been dreaming about that new dress you saw in the storefront last month, go buy it. If your back feels like elephants have been trampling on it, get a massage. And here the most important part – don’t let yourself fall into the #momguilt zone! Everyone needs a break, and by golly mom – you deserve one. So take it and embrace it. The to-do list will always have something on it, but don’t let it control your mind and make you feel defeated. Make room for a little down time, and in the end, you’ll be in a better mood when you do get to the list.
Pencil it In
You’re busy? Like always? We know the feelings. If you haven’t found a time to treat yo’self yet, pencil in time to relax in the coming days. Set aside an hour or two for yourself every few days and let everyone know ahead of time you won’t be around. Tell your baby daddy you’re getting your hair done on Tuesday or going to see a movie with a friend on Saturday. Arrange for your baby to be with your significant other or with your ‘person’ during that time. If you plan ahead, you’re more likely to follow through and get your ‘me’ time. Plus, it gives you something to look forward to during the week!
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
What’s that book say, it’s all small stuff? That may not be completely true, but we do know that some parents can get wrapped up in micromanaging their children and their every move with worry. Delegate some of that stress to the Universe. Stress is what causes us to lose our cool so the less we have to stress about, the more zen we’ll become.
You Got This
Moms, this year let’s resolve to make goals that are actually attainable. After all, peace and happiness is what we’re after, not perfection, right?
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